He Took Things Too Far With A Bully And Then The Bully Committed Suicide – Brass Pills
This story from Reddit is really something,
Original post:
I was an average school going kid who has a pretty average life. Waking up, going to school etc.
But there was this kid “Andrew” who I hated very very much. This kid used bully me all the frigging time. I was annoyed by this kid and what he did to me. He used to make jokes about me, kick me, punch me, even steal from me. He made me look “gay” to everyone.
Now years later I am in high school and this same guy was in my class and he did not change one bit. Except for bullying me only, he bullied others too. But I had a perfect plan to get him back this time. So I decided to make fake social media accounts ( Multiple different accounts on instagram, facebook, snapchat). I made a list of things that triggered him, one of those things that triggered him the most was his body weight.
Every day I used to spam his account(s) with fat shaming quotes, jokes about how he managed himself to get diabetes. I also made all other boys and girls of my class and other classes to fat shame him ( Note: these guys were also subject of his bullying).
He was so annoyed of this that one day he completely stopped coming to school. And after some days we got news that he took his life.
Now all my friends are calling me asshole for taking things to far. I also had to explain this to the school authorities and principle, though some students have my back in this case. His parents are very mad at me and the others.
Update:
I know I am terrible and and huge asshole for doing this. Apparently I have this huge burden on me. My parents have been distant from me for past few weeks, also I lost all my friends. I am in the limelight at the school for about some time. Only my cousin talks with me.
I don’t know what to do. I feel guilty of all of this. I feel like commiting suicide too. I feel like dying too. Everyone hates me now. My school has suspended me and I am going to be put to therapy and counselling. I don’t know about much about what’s going on as I am not allowed to leave the house . But I may be put through 3 months of probation as I overheard this from my parents.
My this academic year will be over soon. And even if I got out of all of this, I may have to repeat a entire year again as I may be missing my exams. I would be withdrawn from my scholarship.
I currently read my old comics and novels as I am banned from using any electronic devices in the house. I am typing this from my grandma’s phone as she is asleep and my parents are sitting out on the porch. I may not get any chances to see any replies. But I am sharing this to get it out from my head. Thank you if you had read through all of this.
Source: He Took Things Too Far With A Bully And Then The Bully Committed Suicide – Brass Pills
John Hawkins basically says ‘too bad’ the kid killed himself. He does make sure to point out that he would never want that to happen but to hold his victim accountable for turning the tables is wrong. I agree.
Have we gone so far down the rabbit hole now that we can’t even retaliate against bullies? We can justify and endorse punching people on the street because we disagree with their politics but we aren’t supposed to defend ourselves against bullies?
Look, most bullies bully because they are compensating for their own low self-worth. We all get that. However, to blame this guy for turning the tables on his lifelong tormentor is asinine. What if he just punched the bully right in the nose and this embarrassed the bully so much he still took his own life? Would he still be held accountable then?
Clearly, the bully had issues that weren’t treated. Everyone in their inner circle either ignored or didn’t see the signs. The school never really intervened either. After years of this behavior, no one did anything?
This is obviously a case of the bully’s family, school faculty, etc. using this poor kid as a scapegoat for their own guilt for having not done anything to divert the bully from this path. Now they have someone they can pin the blame on so they don’t have to feel guilty for not helping the bully when they clearly needed it.